My name is Chelsea, and I’m pretty new to the “DD blogging world”, but not so new to DD. My husband and I have been practicing for a few years now, and met some amazing people along the way. Those people (some of whom have their own blogs) have inspired me to create my own (although, I think majority of my inspiration came from my husband). I’ve wrote a few articles (under the Woman’s Perspective “series”), so some of you may recognize me from there.
I’ve never been very open about DD, which is weird because some of our close friends practice it, and my family even knows about it. Yet still, it’s a difficult topic for me to talk about, whether that’s with complete strangers or people I’ve known my entire life. So, my hope is that by starting this blog it helps me to “come out of my shell” a little bit. We’ll see how that goes.
The title Knowing Your Roles is actually more of a joke between my husband and I that happens to appropriately fit for the DD lifestyle as well, believe it or not. My husband and I, on pretty much a daily basis, will jokingly use the phrase “know your role, babe” (usually in situations when my husband doesn’t “know his role” and tries to make dinner..or if I try to take out the trash, lol) but even though we are joking, there actually is an element of truth behind the statement (even though I think, if said seriously, it sounds a little tool-like). Every marriage has defined roles (both in the DD-aspect, and non-DD aspect) and if those roles aren’t held up (especially from a DD point of view), it makes DD rather difficult. For instance, if the husband fails to consistently punish or follow through with the consequences, or if the wife is constantly breaking the rules, it makes DD very frustrating for everyone. So, that’s sort of where the title for the blog came from.
My goal is to use this blog to dig a little deeper into your role within a DD marriage and also to help me to come out of my shell about DD a little bit and not make it such a taboo topic in my brain anymore. Oh, and meet more awesome people, which I’m excited about!