Domestic Discipline Punishment Journals (with free downloadable examples!)

Domestic Discipline Punishment Journals (with free downloadable examples!)


  We’re adding a new download to our Free Domestic Discipline Download Series this week, and we’re discussing the topic of domestic discipline punishment journals. The punishment journal download example contains two things: a completed punishment journal entry detailing one of my (Chelsea) most recent punishments (so that you can see an example of how journals are used) and a blank punishment journal that you can download, print, and make copies of.

First, what is a punishment journal?

  If you haven’t heard the term before, a punishment journal is a book (either online, such as a blog, or on paper) in which the submissive partner writes and records thier punishments.  Like with all aspects of domestic discipline, all couples use the punishment journal concept differently. Some couples use punishment journals as a way for the submissive partner to record every single punishment, while others only use it for serious offenses or “spankable” offenses.  Some couples also use punishment journals on a very regular basis, while others have never used one.  It all depends on the couple, and if they feel a punishment journal would be useful for them.

So, what are the benefits?

  The biggest benefit most couples see with punishment journals is that they provide a way for the submissive partner to remember their punishments.  Some HOHs find it useful to have the submissive partner go back and read their punishment journal, on occasion, as a reminder of why it’s important to follow the rules and the consequences that can occur if you don’t.  Some submissive partners find punishment journals helpful because they allow them to get a different form of emotional release (aside from, or in addition to, crying) after a punishment. You know the saying “you may feel better if you just get it out?” Well, that saying holds true with punishment journals. Just releasing that emotion helps a lot of submissive partners with guilt and remorse after a punishment. Punishment journals also are a great way for the submissive partner to think more in-depth about why the punishment was necessary and how to avoid it in the future. These are just a few reasons that couples may use punishment journals.

Are punishment journals only for submissive partners? What about the HOH?

  Traditionally speaking, punishment journals are typically only kept by the submissive partner. However, we have heard of cases where HOHs keep a journal as well. Like we’ve said above, it’s completely up to you and your partner and what you feel would work the best for your domestic discipline relationship.

What is the best way to start a domestic discipline punishment journal?

  First, decide if you want the journal to be online or on paper. Some submissive partners may feel more comfortable keeping an online punishment journal in the form of a private blog. This allows them to write (or blog) about punishments but still keeping them private. This is a good alternative for those who want to keep a punishment journal but hate actually writing and prefer typing instead. Another option is the old-fashioned pen and paper method. There are several online sites out there that sell punishment journals (which are basically just a blank notebook with a cover that says punishment journal) but you can also just buy a blank notepad at pretty much any major retailer.

You could also use our punishment journal templates, which we have included below for you to download. You may notice on the template, however, that it is not just blank lines. We include prompts that many submissive partners (and their HOHs) may find helpful.

The punishment journal example file below contains one file with two things. The first is a completed example of a punishment journal entry from one of my (Chelsea) recent punishments. We felt by including an example it would help others to understand how punishment journals are typically used. The second is a blank punishment journal (with the prompts we talked about above).

If you’re interested in downloading the free domestic discipline punishment journal examples below, please input your email address. You must input your email address for the sole reason of being able to receive the download. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose.

If you have any problems downloading please feel free to contact us!

 Please click here to download your punishment journal templates/sample.

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  1. I’ve never thought about keeping a journal, but maybe I’ll try it out. I can see how it could be very beneficial. Thanks for sharing this with us.

    • Not every domestic discipline couple keeps a journal, obviously, but there are certainly some who find them very helpful. If you decide to begin one, we wish you the best of luck with it!

      — Clint & Chelsea

  2. Thank you so much for all your hard work. I have a punishment journal but it’s almost full so i will definitely be printing off your template.

    • Thank you for your appreciation of our hard work! It’s always nice to know it’s appreciated, and we in turn appreciate your support as well. Thank you so much.

      We hope you find the LDD punishment journal template helpful. It’s free to download, so feel free to do so as much as you want! :)

      All the best to you.

      — Clint & Chelsea

    • Great! We’re glad you enjoy them.

      Thank you for your comment. All the best to you and yours.

      — Clint & Chelsea

  3. I’m confused. I thought the whole idea of being punished was to be forgive and the transgression forgotten (the way Jesus does when he forgives us). Once you’re forgiven you’re forgiven, you’re not shamed, humiliated and punished again and again be reading your faults over and over. Man, I’d be sent into a deep depression if I had to consistently revisit everything I’ve ever done wrong. I would think most people would feel that way, too. IMO

    • It certainly sounds like punishment journals are not for you. Thank you for reading, and taking the time to share your thoughts.

      All the best to you, N!

      — Clint & Chelsea

  4. I have used a “behaviour log” for over five years now as part of our DD marriage. I am a Doctor and it is really important to us that I do not bring my directive, being the one who decides approach necessitated by my job into the home. From the start I agreed with my husband some fairly strict requirements to ensure I was able to support him as the HoH at all times. One of these is that every day I complete my log including even minor potential transgressions from our rules and he signs it off. I am of course disciplined from any obvious misbehaviour but we also review the content every week and I can be assigned punishment if ther is a pattern of low level failures. This has helped us avoid issues before they become more severe. I do all the housework and never wears trousers outside of work always a skirt or dress and this has helped me to fufil the submissive role we both wish for. The template will help us review whether the log I currently keep could be improved.

    • Thank you for sharing your experience, Victoria. We think a lot of readers will be able to use your way of doing things as a launching point for their own journals, or “behavior log”, as you put it. Journals can be helpful in a lot of ways, and we’re happy to hear you’ve found the most beneficial way to approach a DD journal for your marriage.

      Thanks for taking the time to comment. All the best to you and yours.

      — Clint & Chelsea

  5. I keep a journal on my iPad. It already has my first entries. I have kept a journal for many years. I totally agree with Clint and Chelsea about how beneficial they are. If the readers here don’t already keep one, I encourage them to do so!


    • Keeping a journal can be very helpful and therapeutic, can’t it? Sometimes going back and reading about past mistakes can make a big impact on preventing the same mistakes from happening in the future. A lot of others find them just as helpful as you do. It’s great to hear that they’re helpful to so many.

      Thanks for sharing your experience, Kat. Best of luck to you going forward.

      — Clint & Chelsea

  6. I use a punishment journal all the time for both my maintenance punishments and any discipline I receive for rule breakage. As well as helping me to remind myself of what I have done and picking up patterns of misbehavior it helps HoH to ensure the penalties for offences are consistent.

    • You make a very good point. An HoH going back to read about the punishment can definitely help with any inconsistency issues the HoH may be having. Yet another great and valid benefit from keeping a punishment journal in a domestic discipline relationship.

      Thank you for sharing your experience, Jackie. We appreciate you taking the time to do so. All the best to you and yours.

      — Clint & Chelsea